Single And Available
Ok, so after going to my cousins wedding (long story for another time) and then headed over to another friends L'chaim (mazal tov T) I eventualy went to another friends office for a little farbi with some beers (at 2am) and then finnaly settled at my friends little workshop (shack) with me the host and one other friend, spoke a bit about dating and then I dared one of the guys to write a post about dating to be posted on my blog without me editing it... Here it is is, to bozzed to post my opinios right now ( as I said I would) but I tottaly agree with whatever the dude wrote.
Here it is. (And yes he is S&A, anyone iterested E-mail me. ;)
Girls should be taught early on in life – sometime between the age 16 to 18 – how to read men. They should be able to differentiate between a serious man and a regular party guy, the one that will just start up with them for the hell of it, hoping to get some pleasure out of it…
Sometime I see a girl and I say to myself I wish she could be my wife. Of course usually she is good looking and my type of girl but that’s not entirely all I was looking for. In fact, usually when I encounter a girl in the street I usually see prettier and sexier girls walking right behind her, but that doesn’t drive me crazy. That’s not what I am looking for.
You see, I am a one of those regular bochurim, who went through the system, ‘been there done that’ type of guy, I have a great job and I go to school to make up for all the English stuff I missed out in yeshiva; I actually want to get a degree in some field so I can earn a better living one day. I don’t usually brag about myself, that’s not my character. But after having two Coronas and three Stella Artois (my favorite) I take the liberty to express my feelings without inhibitions… It’s now time for me to get married. I am totally ready for it. I’m a ‘nice Jewish young man’ with some good qualities a girl is looking for. A man that is looking to establish a Jewish house, loves kids (straight), responsible, and blah, blah.
Why am I saying all this? K, here is a story that happened to me: on my way to school last year I saw this nice girl on the subway, she looked good but also possessed what I thought is a great character. Being on the dating scene for a while, I didn’t want to pass on this one. I needed to do something and I needed to do it fast. I sat across this girl and observed her behavior, just to make sure that this was it… she got off the train on franklin ave and I followed. She sat down on the bench and I made believe I was looking for directions. This wasn’t funny, time was moving fast and I was afraid to lose this girl. I could not come up with anything to tell or ask her but I decided to approach her anyway. I took the step and told her she looked familiar. We had a nice conversation until she told me her name. I then recognized that she was engaged. She was about to get married to a jack ass.
Now that pissed me off!
Last week I saw her in a restaurant. She saw me too. I can feel her saying ‘why didn’t you take me’
I just feel that the girls fall for all the jack*sses because they are the ones that actively look out for them. The truth is that there are many great guys out there that actually care and are capable. But you are not looking in the right places.
Ok that's that, I havent gone through it yet, my comments will come when I am sober.
G'night/morning Y'all.
To finish off, a quote from me "If not for good friend, we would all be married"
posted by Chasidishe Shaigitz @ 5:30 AM
54 comments
54 Comments:
Sounds like a scene from a movie.
Many Jack asses, as you call them, go to through a complete metamorphosis after marriage, the added responsibility and the wife's mood can do that to a man.
So have you contacted nay Shadchanim yet?
Wow... um... yeah...
Read you loud and clear... though some of your ideas are slightly skewed (This is to the un-named [masked and caped?] friend, not to CS.) Can't wait to hear your comments...
BTW- CS: buZZed ... and I wont get into the other sp./grammatical errors.. :)
FURTHERMORE: When did you become a shadchan?
We wanna hear about the wedding! :)
Hmmmm....
Interesting...
I think the Pakis do it right; just make a deal with the family when the kiddies are too little to know better and then they will grow to love each other.
Plus, if one of them turns out to be hideously ugly, there's always plastic surgery.
(BTW how old is this S&A guy? i know LOADS of girls)
oy oy oy
PRAG: You should hear the complete story, it gets better.
"Complete metamorphosis..." Do you really think so? I find that hard to imagine regarding most J/A that I know.
F: Hey I did point out that I was coming from a wedding, L'chaim and a farbi, so don’t even think about holding me responsible for my spelling or grammatical errors regarding what I wrote last night, cuz hey I was "bozzed" ;p
And the shadchan business just started last night, truthfully though I dont think I can ever be a shadchan, I'm to honest.
ANON: Sorry I don’t think I can share the wedding story (now that I'm sober.) Lets just say it involved a shidduch suggestion for me.
KASAMBA: Funny yet scary thought.
My friend is 25.
JEMINA3: LOL, I was thinking the same thing.
errr
hows that for an intelligent response? hehe
eh takshivu, its hard to be dan lechaf zechus and sometimes you think you just know it all, but hey! you dont..and you never will..so give up trying and figuring out peoples life stories, and make your own.
hatzlacha rabba for your friend
What a story wow.
oof
the problem with girls is not that they dont know how to read men. the problem is that they are CONVINCEd they are the exception, they want so much to beleive that they can change him, that despite all the red flags they will be the one to fix him. guys can be sneaky like that, theyll behave one way with a girl they are interested in, and a completely other way with the rest of the world.. the girl only sees how he treats her and figures she's different.. the problem is that a few years down the line, she's become part f the masses, and hes treating her like everyone else.. and by then its too late.
the key is not to read the guy right, its to remember that character traits dont split - the way he treats the world, is the way he will end up treating the girl.
i dont believe this story, unless im naive and it is really a farkrumte velt , i am shocked that a bochur would do such an idiotic thing, and how in the world can you tell from seeing someone on the subway, that this is your type.. oh gimme a break,
Avoid hangovers, stay drunk!
so while i'm still intoxicated (corona extra does a good enough job) let me continue my thoughts:
I don't believe there is such a thing as your type. in fact, i believe that each person has more then one match in this world, and within every mile you'll be able to find a potential match for yourself(in populated jewish areas such as ny, la, israel etc.)it's only that we need to find the best fitting one. (BTW, this is not my idea, it is mentioned in the rebbes books too, that every person has several zivugim, and getting the best one depends on the spiritual status one is in at the moment)
by saying that i thought the girl was my type i meant to say that i was comfortable with her behaviour and attitudes and i accepted her the way she was. anything better then that? it was a girl i cared for and i could not point out why... maybe i was decieved?
probaly. hopfully.
I hope she has a wonderful life with the man she chose to marry.
odd story,borderline creepy.
besides u never know, maybe she is truly happy.one can NEVER know what goes on behing closed doors..
oh, and strictly out of curiousity it seems that a "Bochur" whod approach a girl in this manner is capable of making his own shidduch sans a shadchin.
i never understood that..."modern" let alone frie guys and gals who interact,meet and totally have the means to making it home made,requesting to be set up via a shaddchin.
the good old fashion way.
whats with that???
Ewwww. If a guy wanted to go out with me cause he was "comfortable with my behavior and attitudes" and he had determined that from watching me on the subway, I'd be freaked.
I always knew there was a reason I hated riding in the same subway car as bochurim.
Dude, that story is sad. My sympathies. next time you're drinking gimme a buz.
if you and mr zonic, make a blog party together no one will have to rely on the subway :)
u know what you bums , stop drinking for starters!!!!
Hickup!!!
I was sitting on the bitch last week with my dog, and a boy walked by. he ask me if he can pet, so i say yes. so he then ask me if he can also pet the dog.
I dont you like thsi man.
Sorry author as I said I would comment, got kind of busy (busy, includes killing my ankle in gym yesterday, and being in a world of pain for a while, yet I'm feeling better now B"h) so here is just a bit of my mind for now.
I don’t see what everyone is tripping about, is it just a guy thing that we get these kind of feelings, is it totally abnormal, to walk by someone and get a certain vibe and a feeling inside which tells you this person just might be the one!
I understand its usually the guy who has to make the first move, but come on girls, if you are the right age and looking to get married and you observe some guy who makes a good impression on you for whatever reason, and lets just say that its possible that you understand what I’m saying and get a certain feeling about him, and you know your probably not going to see that guy again anytime soon, wouldn’t you wish that maybe he to come over and introduce himself………………………..
I'm sure from my idea in a earlier post (bochurim with shidduch resumes in their pockets) you know how I feel about this, really I think it would be cool if you are seriously looking to get married and pass by someone you’re really attracted to, to be able to make something out of it, if you’re that type of person... Most guys rely on shachanim and wont even think of this situation as a shidduch opportunity and most of the other guys simply don’t have the guts to approach a girl, but if your the type on guy who has no qualms about approaching a girl, then why not? If she is for you then great, and if not then you just had the cheapest date of your life ;p
My mom told me this story about a relative of ours who was by a wedding and happened to see a girl who he felt really attracted to, and he said " You see that girl over there, I'm going to marry her!"
A little while later he married her, and B"h they have a beautifull marriage...
So there.
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"u know what you bums , stop drinking for starters!!!!"
MOM????
YONIT: Are you for real, I'll refrain from giving my reply. but may I recommend some English lessons for you
yes, i dont know english to good but i want to say my story becose your blog is good. i like!
The biggest problem with walking over and introducing yourself is that its considerd inappropriate. If I start a conversation with a girl that I see in this community, she will look at me as superficial (somewhat true), and more importantly, a flirt who is not looking for a serious relationship. This is a result of the total segregation of unmarried males and females, and this will never change.
Being that the status quo will never change, although I wish it were not so, anyone who is doing the shadchan thing should not introduce himself in the street (but the subway is fine;p). The solution is for everyone to wear a name tag so that if you see somenone you like you can have a shadchan call her.
for some weird reason this is considerd more appropriate than doing it yourself. after all why should the couple decide for themselves if this is what their looking for, when everyone else will decide for them.
btw shaigitz, when you said that you will publish a blog that I write w/o editing, does that include pics?
only YOUR mom can call you a bum???? and if im someone elses mom??
i think yonit is a fake
THE1: Thanks for posting dude, good point and well written, your definitely nominated to write my next post ;) Whenever you have the time.
ANON: Yes, only my mom can get away with it... Because I know she loves me ;)
MM: I dont know what to think.
A Chutzpah! you guys didn't invite me to the party...
"Author", now you got me very curious, I think I'm going to have to get you drunk again so I can get the rest of the story.
the 1... said:
"when you said that you will publish a blog that I write w/o editing, does that include pics?"
Oh G-d I hope not.
Too many people will need to go for therapy if your pictures aren't censored.
How can a girl tell the difference between a shy guy and a guy that doesn't talk to girls?
The author would have a better chance of getting a girl if he wasn't anon.
It is rather stalkerish to follow a girl off the subway. It would have been better to just go up to her on the train.
Also, there are many occasions when the girl makes the first move.
are you guys for real? you call yourself chassidish,whose chosid are you?
now THIS is a blog! sh'koach on your readership...(and sobriety).
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RENEGADE: All you had to do was look out your back window, you know your always invited.
"Too many people will need to go for therapy if your pictures aren't censored."
LOL we were just talking about that by the farbi tonight, we made up as long they arent crude or insulting in any way, and as long as they aren’t pics of me he can post them.
INTRANSIT: You cant, neither of them will talk to you :p
I dared the author to post on my blog, he wasn’t writing to get a girl (which would be a nice if he did)
"Also, there are many occasions when the girl makes the first move."
Not in my world.
ANON: Calm down just a bit, don’t jump to conclusions to fast.
Just for you.
"you call yourself chassidish"
Not at all, I'm still partial shaigitz.
EXTRASPICY: If you are who I think you are, then welcome back! how ya doing? E-mail please.
the 1 who was ignoring u guys while u were writing this blog said...
we're waiting anxiously for a post
listen here guys , stop playing with matches(pun intended)you can get burnt...
AMOM: Very cute, truth is I havent gone on a sigle date yet (the one that almost happend doesnt count) and I'm definitely not the type of guy who would walk over to a girl on the street just like that, so I'll be waiting for the shaddchan.
Take any interesting pic and there will always be someone who finds it offensive. So now we need to discuss who will or won't be offended. I guess that my answer is no, writing an uncensored post does not include graphics.
Anyone for a vote whether the shaigitz should get married? I find it funny that someone who is not yet in the fishbowl would write so much about shidduchim.
awww, im proud of you ;)
and i vote yes to chassidishe bochur ( not shaigetz) getting married, talking so much a bit it may be a sign....
i second dat
THE1: Regarding the post, you’re on!
Dude just what are you trying to do over here?! Mutiny! Running a vote on my blog without getting my consent... :o ;p
AMOM: Awwwwwwww. LOL maybe I should quit talking :(
SHD: Sure why not, count me in too.
great, perhaps we can find someone who loves the smell of beer, and is tipsy every "montig oon donershtig".
correction -not that she is tipsy... i meant we need to find someone who will love someone who is tipsy every...
TWILIGHT: True... Sometimes.
AMOM: LOL, How about finding me some1 who actually willing to get tipsy every "Montig oon Dondershtig" ;)
k, i think i know someone, how old r you?and you gonna hve to tell me your name..besides for the beer she's a good girl, chassidish -kind of...
and i can see her helping with the ceiling.
just one question: out of 48 comments did you get a date? just wondering also to "the 1 who was ignoring you guys while you were writing this blog" i definately agree, name tags are a smart idea but then all the shadchins would be out of business and you where would that leave the mothers to mess things up? b/c e/o knows "n/o's good enough for my son"
number 50
AMOM: LOL, Your killing me.
PENNIE: I'm not the one who is looking for the date right now, as you noticed I wasnt the one who wrote the post, not that I wouldnt think about dating...
The name tag thing actually came up before in another post, but good point about the mothers messing things up.
RENEGADE: Number 51!
Pennie=pinny???
o ya my b i remeber the one abt the name tag i still think its a really good idea though
If Men Ruled The World..
Any fake phone number a girl gave you would automatically forward your call to her real number.
Nodding and looking at your watch would be deemed an acceptable response to "I love you."
Hallmark would make "Sorry, what was your name again?" cards.
When your girl friend really needed to talk to you during the game,she'd appear in a little box in the corner of the screen during a time-out.
Breaking up would be a lot easier.A smack to the ass and a "Nice hustle, you'll get 'em next time" would pretty much do it.
Birth control would come in ale or lager.
You'd be expected to fill your resume with gag names of people you'd worked for, like "Heywood J'Blowme."
Each year, your raise would be pegged to the fortunes of the NFL team of your choice.
The funniest guy in the office would get to be CEO.
"Sorry I'm late, but I got really wasted last night" would be an acceptable excuse for tardiness.
At the end of the workday, a whistle would blow and you'd jump out your window and slide down the tail of a Brontosaurus and right into your car like Fred Flintstone.
It'd be considered harmless fun to gather 30 friends, put onhorned helmets, and go pillage a nearby town.
Lifeguards could remove citizens from beaches for violating the"public ugliness" ordinance.
Tanks would be far easier to rent.
Garbage would take itself out.
Instead of beer belly, you'd get "beer biceps."
Instead of an expensive engagement ring, you could present your wife-to-be with a giant foam hand that said, "You're #1!"
Valentine's Day would be moved to February 29th so it would onlyoccur in leap years.
On Groundhog Day, if you saw your shadow, you'd get the day off to go drinking. Mother's Day, too.
St. Patrick's Day, however, would remain exactly the same. But it would be celebrated every month.
COPS would be broadcast live, and you could phone in advice to the pursuing cops. Or to the crooks.
Two words: Ally McNaked.
Regis and Kathie Lee would be chained to a cement mixer and pushedoff the Golden Gate Bridge for the most lucrative pay-per-view event inworld history.
The victors in any athletic competition would get to kill and eat the losers.
The only show opposite Monday Night Football would be Monday Night Football from a Different Camera Angle.
It would be perfectly legal to steal a sports car, as long as you returned it the following day with a full tank of gas.
Every man would get four real Get Out of Jail Free cards per year.
When a cop gave you a ticket, every smart-aleck answer youresponded with would actually reduce your fine. As in: Cop: "You know how fast you were going?" You: "All I know is, I was spilling my beer all over the place." Cop: "Nice one. That's $10 off."
Faucets would run "Hot," "Cold," and "100 proof."
The Statue of Liberty would get a bright red, 40-foot thong.
People would never talk about how fresh they felt.
Daisy Duke shorts would never again go out of style.
Telephones would automatically cut off after 30 seconds of conversation.
Good stuff Creative, though I don't think that I want to see Lady Liberty in a thong.
wow. ou know, your back at that marriage thing but in a whole new way...
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